Whether you are fifteen or thirty-five, dating is something that should be thought about and done carefully. There are few if any areas of your life that you should proceed with as much caution in as dating.
Before anyone
thinks of dating someone else, they should take some time to evaluate themself
and their current life situation. Someone with large questions about who they
are or about what want to do in life should be hesitant to enter into a dating
situation. The more you know yourself and the better your life is before you
begin dating, the better chance you have that dating will add to the quality of
your life. Ask yourself hard questions about who you are and about the kind of
dating relationship you hope to have.
It is equally
important to consider carefully the kind of person that you hope to begin a
dating relationship with. The more you know yourself, the better you will
understand what kind of person or personality will best complement who you are
in a dating relationship. We have all heard it said that "opposites
attract," and in some cases this is true. So, for example, if you tend to
be an outgoing person who loves attention, the chances are high that you should
not begin dating someone with a similar personality. The person you choose to
date should be someone that shares common interests and values with you. There
is nothing better than dating the right person at the right time and for the
right reason. However, there is equally nothing worse than dating the wrong
person at the wrong time for the wrong reasons.
A third major thing
to consider before you begin dating someone is your expectations for the
relationship. It is always wise to enter a new relationship with an
understanding of the things you expect both to give to it and to receive from
it. Be honest with yourself in this process. If you expect to spend time with
the person you are dating every single day, then you should let that person
know your expectations from the start. Or if, perhaps, you are looking to date
someone while continuing with other things in your life, then be honest about
that upfront as well.
Dating can be one
of the most fun and beneficial things in life. It is always wise to be thinking
long term and big picture when you enter a dating situation. So, take your time
and answer some serious questions before you get yourself into a serious dating
relationship and realize it is wrong.
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